Attitude Training, Part 4 October 23, 2007

So how does a tall, skinny kid who was an
emotional misfit turn his life around and
begin to live his dreams?

Coach McCord asked me that question. He
had a long history as a teacher who helped
to fashion the character and feed the knowledge
of seventh and eighth grade kids in the small
Northeast Texas town where I grew up.

I ran into ‘Coach’ and his wife recently at a
local restaurant in my hometown (she happened
to be my first grade teacher and back then,
I had this amazing crush on her; glad ‘Coach’
never knew my secret).

‘Coach’ was the first person to ever acknowledge
my value as a human being.

During the eighth grade year, after one of the
very grueling football practices of the very
hot and sweltering days of early September,
‘Coach’ had us doing sprints due to some of the bad
behavior of 2-3 players on the team.

After nearly dying in the Texas heat and sultry
humidity, I sat in the locker room attempting to
catch my breath. Being the 14 year old ‘genius’
that I was, I boldly declared to my other team
mates that, ‘I don’t think its fair that all of us
are punished because of the stupidity of just
a few.’

Little did I realize, ‘Coach’ was standing right
behind me. He quickly said, ‘Murphy, I need to
see you in my office.’ Ah carramba! I was in
trouble.

‘Coach’ kept it short and to the point. He simply
said, ‘Murphy, if you don’t like the way I run this
team, then quit! Now, get out of my sight.’

Well, I wasn’t about to quit. So I decided to
adjust my attitude.

At the end of the season, when ‘Coach’ was
handing out the awards for certain accomplishments,
‘Coach’ said, ‘I have one award for one player who is
without doubt the most improved player on this team
this season. I’m giving this award to Michael Murphy.’

I had never been acknowledged for any accomplishment
up until that moment in my life. I didn’t know what
incredible pride and deep emotion I would feel when
given that kind of public recognition and encouragement.

When I saw ‘Coach’ eating lunch recently, he gave me
the biggest hug and let know again how proud he was of
me now as a 48 year old man. He had bought and read
my books.

I could see in his eyes a question that he had a question
but didn’t want to ask. So, discerning what he was asking
with his eyes, I rightfully finished what needed to be
said that day. I told him that he played a large part in
everything that I’ve accomplished in my life. Those
words garnered another hug from ‘Coach’ and his
wife.

My friend, never underestimate the power of encouragement.
I believe that the thinking when I was a child was
predominantly, ‘Don’t brag on them too much; you’ll give
them a big head and ruin them’. Well, nothing could
have been further from reality.

I recently read about the most expensive car on the
market today. It is likely the Bugatti Veyron. At
1,001 horsepower it has a zero-to-60 time of under
three seconds. It sells for around $1.2 million. (To
give you some perspective, you could buy 6 Lamborghini
Gallardos for the same amount of money.)

They produce so few of them, their waiting list can be
quite long and it could be 3-5 years for those who can
afford one.

One of the biggest secrets in producing such a fast
car is the turbo-charged nature of the engine. Simply
put, there are four turbo chargers pushing enough air
which in turn forces massive amounts of fuel into the
engine.

Likewise, you can propel a tall, skinny, low self-
esteem teenager into being, doing and having things
‘he’ would have never imagined for his life
with encouraging and empowering words
(breath or air). Think about it.

Your belief system is established by the
words you’ve allowed to set up resident in
your subconscious mind. Your belief system
will produce the actions you take in your life.
Your actions will always determine your
results and what you get out of life.

So, how do you turn a tall, skinny, low self-
esteemed teenager into an author of some
renown and a soul that positively affects
tens of thousands of people around the world?

You do it by feeding him the right words. By
breathing the right air into him. You
do it by him choosing to focus on the right
thoughts. You do it by setting verbal milestones
of empowerment and encouragement in his
life.

Like the little engine that could which I mentioned
in my last article, he repeats what he believes
about himself until what he believes becomes
his reality.

Consider doing a couple of things.

First, consider encouraging someone today.

It may or may not be a teenager. But do it for
someone and do it today.

Second, if you have no one to force or even give
‘turbo charged’ encouragement to you, then choose
to empower yourself. The greatest voice that will
determine your future in your life is your own.

Start saying, thinking and meditating on things that
will empower you. Start training your subconscious
mind to deliver success into your reality of life.

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Attitude Training, Part 5 October 23, 2007

Can you imagine a gnat on the backside
(as Forrest Gump called it, ‘Ma buttocks!’)
of an elephant? I mean a gnat can
certainly be annoying if it is flying around
you head. Especially in your face. But,
as you can imagine, it is little consequence
on an elephant’s ‘buttocks’.

Have you ever been walking down the
street and a little tiny dog charge at you
like it was a police dog chasing down a
thief (like you’ve seen on those cop shows
on television)? I mean if it is a little
chihuahua, you might at first be startled
but then you realize that it couldn’t hurt
a fly?

Part of the aspects of a powerful attitude
for success is what I call, ‘Success Armor’.
Let me explain.

Invariably in your life, you will experience
rainy days. Likewise, you will also experience
someone who doesn’t like you. For reasons
you could never dream of, they just don’t
care for you. And then sometimes, for
‘no reason at all’ you cross the path of people
like that.

Another huge caution sign, blinking your
face, that I should share with you is,
the more success you experience, the
bigger target you become. When you
experience success, money or fame,
you set yourself up as a target for people
who are frustrated with they own lack.

Like the next conflict to arise in Congress,
you can count on it. You can also count on
it not being too far away from happening.

So WHEN this happens, what do you do?

I love the books and teachings of a fellow
Texan, Jerry Clark. Jerry teaches a concept
called, ‘Rhino Success’. Like a rhinoceros
charging through the jungle, you can live
your life undaunted by those who don’t
understand what you’re about.

Part of your powerful attitude for
success, must be that you have a
plan in order to deal with opposition
from other people. In fact, as a
side note here, the difference between
reacting and responding is having a
plan.

First, be completely aware that unwarranted
challenges will present themselves to you
through other people. Its going to happen.

Second, realize that those who might be
jealous and/or envious of you are in
fact dealing with themselves, not you.

I know that it is difficult to see this
sometimes, but this is in fact what
they are doing.

They are seeking a feeling. They are
attempting to ‘scratch an itch’ deep
within their mind and emotions. You can
rest assured that they have no clue as to
what they are doing. They truly believe
that their job in life is ‘set you straight’
or get you fixed.

Dr. Wayne Dyer has an amazing attitude
when it comes to people attacking him.
Dr. Dyer says, “What you think about me
is none of my business”.

Dr. Dyer goes on to teach that, ‘we don’t
see others as THEY are; we see others as
WE are’.

Like the chihuahua, they are really harmless
in their verbal attacks or schemes that
they enact against you. In rare situations
a person like this can attempt something
extreme that definitely needs to be dealt with.

However, much of the time, whatever they
do can do no more than hurt your feelings
(unless you’ve prepared yourself for such).

Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor, had,
some of the greatest and wisest perspectives
of living that I’ve ever witnessed.

He said that people who act unbecoming need
not be opposed (except in the extreme situations
that I mentioned earlier). He said their suffering
for being that way is already enough punishment.
I interpret that to be that they are already suffering
due to their own lack of self-esteem, confidence or
success.

Prepare yourself for just such personal attacks.

Deal with such attacks, in your own heart and
mind, with wisdom and understanding.

Recognize that ultimately the attack likely has
little consequence other than hurting your feelings.

Decide today that you are going to build a
rhino-like success armor for staying focus even when
attacked, challenged or criticized.
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